One of the most important lessons I have learned about relationships is this: how you think and feel about yourself determines how others think and feel about you, too.
I always knew this, but I did not realize how true that was until I saw that unfold in my own life. Because of this, I would share my story with you, I called about a man who makes me feel more alive than any man has ever done before. My hope is that you can use these lessons to find a partner who treats beautifully, too.
In the fall of 2013, I went through a very difficult time. A break and a painful family situation had left me feeling raw and ravaged. I knew that in order to pull myself out of it, I had to spend most of my time to rebuild the love within myself. So that’s what I did.
I spent the end of 2013 meditation, reading inspirational books, yoga, listening to my spiritual master, and connection with the heart. And … it worked. In mid-January, I felt whole again.
During this time, I was reading a fabulous book by Sally Kempton called Awakening Shakti – an amazing depiction of Hindu goddesses who guide women to experience the divine feminine within ourselves.
In this book, was a goddess who loved most. I felt an affinity for it immediately; not only because I wanted to be her, but also because I could identify parts of myself that she was. His name is Lalita Tripura Sundari and she is the goddess of erotic spirituality.
As Sally describes Lalita is “the goddess who is more successful together seeming opposites of executive power and sexuality, sexual and spiritual love. Regia and playful, which is the most delicious way of female integral.”
“Yes!” I thought when I read your description. Just yes.
Read about Lalita helped me identify what I wanted to be in the world as a woman; she represented so many qualities that I wanted for myself. She made them real and accessible; I could feel the goddess within me I begin to wake up even more.
Every day he went to meditate in a heart-centered place, and evoke the feeling of the goddess.
I am powerful.
I am playful.
I am sensual.
I am love.
As I did, I began to feel more and more myself! I felt so good inside! I felt like the real me. I did not know, I was also preparing to meet a man who would see me how are you qualities, too.
In the midst of my Goddess-room, I went to the festival of Valentine’s Day with a friend. The track felt incredibly appropriate. Love. Of course. Why should we celebrate anything?
The fact that I was alone in this party I did not care. I felt connected with the great love in my heart, and therefore I felt everywhere. I was happy and just be done.
I’m sure you can guess what happened in this match. I did not expect it, but looking back, it makes perfect sense. I met a man who saw me as the goddess I know I was.
He noticed me from across the room and walked towards me in a straight line through the crowd.
Outright said, “Hello. Who are you?” taking my hand, “Are you okay? You’re beautiful.” He was playful and respectful. I liked his energy and the way it made me feel.
The amazing thing about our interaction was that I knew this man saw me as I saw – a powerful playful, sexy woman with grace, humility and love in your heart.
So that’s where our story began, and has continued from there. Several months after our first meeting, my connection to this man has remained as extraordinary as it was the first night I met him. It has truly been one of the most beautiful experiences of my life.
After this happened to me, I deeply understand the truth behind all relationships: People treat you like you treat yourself. You see how you see yourself.
When I experienced the same as the goddess, this is what I became. How I felt about myself reflected back to me by this man. I felt very loved, and it all started in me.
Knowing this powerful truth, it’s your turn. Who do you want to be, and how would you see?
Search deep within. Find love, beauty, power and grace within yourself. Possessing these qualities, and let it shine through you.
Once you claim what you really are, nevertheless a partner that is you claim this wonderful person, too.
Please leave a comment below telling us how you are going to be more of the person you want to be, starting today.
And if you want my help to become the person you want to be, who is preparing for the greatest love of his life,