I used to constantly need the approval of others. Approval that I was good enough, pretty enough, thin enough, pretty decent, and so on.
Right along with my constant need for approval, I had a bad case of the “whens’ll be happy.” When I get that job, make more friends (or more money) have a perfect body finally find my perfect match … the list could go on.
I was desperately looking for the outside world to fulfill my inner world.
It did not work.
What did the job but was digging at the bottom and opening my heart and soul to love, light and compassion.
Throughout the process, I learned a lot, and am still, like all of us. But when I sat down to write what helped me to be happier, healthier,, peaceful version of myself, these 11 lessons over emphasized.
1. Don’t internalize the negative.
We all have our own problems that we are working through, so it’s good to remember that the negativity of others towards you have absolutely nothing to do with you. It is simply that the other person trying to work through their own material. Use this as an opportunity to stay grounded and focused on his own person and to show compassion and most importantly, to grow.
2. Learn to value your struggles.
We change, we grow, and we learn some of our most important lessons when we’re challenged. They shape who we are and make us human. If everything were always hunky-dory, life would be pretty boring.
3. Get out in nature.
Nature connects his soul to the universe in a whole new level. We felt at peace, breathe fresh air, and move our bodies in nature. There is no other feeling like it. The door opens and realizes that there is something bigger out there and that’s both comforting and reassuring time.
4. Find a type of movement you love, then do it regularly.
Our bodies are not meant to be punished by exercise. Our bodies are designed to feel empowered by exercise. And we’re meant to feel connected to our body (in a loving way) through movement. A customer once told me, “If I had to tell my old self something, I wonder what she liked to do as a child. What activity brought you joy? Once I had the answer that would do much more than that . the movement is therapy for the soul, that is, if you like what you’re doing. ”
5. Open your heart to others, and share how you truly feel.
Let people in your life know how you feel is so important. It is the only way a relationship (a relationship) can further evolve and grow. You may feel vulnerable (and a bit uncomfortable at first), but their level of honesty open your heart in a whole new way you’ve never felt before. And not to sound cheesy, but honestly not really free.
6. Create healthy boundaries.
You can’t fully show up for yourself and others when you feel like a doormat. And I promise (even though you may feel awkward at first), the people in your life who are meant to be there will understand.
7. Have a daily soul practice.
There is something so grounded in small everyday actions that feed your soul. Whether a walk, meditation, journal writing, conceptualization, mantras, a call the morning with her soul sister, set an intention for the day, yoga, a gratitude journal, reading, or quiet time with a cup area, these small but powerful actions help us to savor the moment, we feel centered, and we kind, loving, compassionate souls, “time” they crave.
8. Move forward from all the slights you remember.
Forgive others (that means yourself too), so you can move forward and become unstuck. Holding on to that painful energy can eat at you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you agree, but it means you’re willing to accept what happened, learn what you needed to learn, and move forward.
9. Practice living for the moment.
Focus on doing the best I can with where you are (even if you do not like) with what you have now. That’s how it will evolve into the most powerful you.
10. Recall the good when you feel like a failure.
When you feel like a failure, it is easy to label himself “a failure”. Recognize that this is just a feeling and it will happen. And remember all the wonderful things you’ve accomplished, contributed to and passed. Because you have done a lot! Quiet inner voice that reminds you’ve felt this way before, and take some “time” to rebalance.
Note: the fights are tests along your journey, so you can use your tools (and purchase new ones) to see how much you’ve grown. And remember, never give you more than you can handle.
11. Honor what your body is telling you.
There is something so incredibly simple but profound happens when you start listening to your body. Lower the job and go to bed early because your body is aching to sleep. Or, decides to go on a walk restoration rather than an intense interval class because that is just what we needed that day. Open the waves to listen to what your body really needs at the moment, and see how that decision rearing opens the mind-body-soul.