This article is for those who are willing to admit (if only to themselves) that they want the love and approval of the people in their lives.
You can claim loudly that the love and approval of others is not necessary.
You can secretly ashamed of wanting it, and work hard to heal this desire itself.
Sometimes it can realize its faulty logic, but in its more honest moments, admit that there are times you want for him.
You want your spouse, partner or family to accept him for who you are.
You want your students, colleagues, clients, or boss to recognize their strengths and thinks it’s pretty amazing.
You want your children to appreciate everything you’ve done for them and love to do the best he could.
If you want some of these things, or something similar, at least some of the time, here is an easy way to get them:
Not only do three things:
1. I love first.
Admit it. How is judging? How much they want to be different from the way they are? If you want to feel loved, you must love. And you have to love sincerely, humbly and completely (even when they do not do something the way it would). There are so many things you could find to like about all the people who come into contact with, but if you do not feel loved, is largely because it does not seek what you like of others.
Do not use this as a reason to think you’re a failure. If you blame or punish them for their shortcomings, it does not find wonderful things of others. Just find wonderful things of others. That’s all.
2. Love yourself.
I know you’ve heard this before. I know you know deep down that love trumps get love and approval from someone else at the moment. But there are times when you forget this, or simply not buying. I want to talk to you at the time: Make a list of what you like of others. Why are amazing? Why do you admire? Write a letter of love of your life with someone you think is totally awesome. So … admit this: You can not recognize something that has. Everyone in the world is a reflection of you. Sit quietly until you can admit it’s so amazing. Do not be arrogant about it. Be real. Find examples and prove yourself. Sit down until you feel the spark of the will to admit you have the qualities that you love and admire in others. So of course I would love yourself.
This does not mean you have to be perfect. How many people you love, who do not always live as the highest version of themselves? If you can love them, you can love. So stop making a big deal about his alleged errors or deficiencies. Really, just stop.
3. Let them love you.
Yes, if you want someone to love you, you have to leave. Love them, love yourself enough to know that you are worthy, and then be completely vulnerable. Without these things, who can love you more than anything on earth and not feel it. Or trust her.
Also, let me love unconsciously. You know how bad that sometimes treats people you love most? It is because basically you trust enough to keep love, even at its worst. Sometimes we show how much we love someone for the confidence that they are going to love even our worst. I am not advocating that this is not ideal, but it certainly happens. And if you can not stop doing this, do not expect the people you love to be able to help her either. Let love you for not being perfect, or not always know what to do or say. Because this is his talk vulnerability, ie which shows his dark side and asking that love anyway.
If you tap its limitless capacity to love others unconditionally; if you love yourself, because you are a real being, authentic, perfectly imperfect man with a heart of gold; and if you let yourself be loved by people however know how to love you … then you will feel the love coming at you from all directions