The secret to unlimited happiness you feel in your relationship is to learn this simple yet radical practice:
Leaving aside the idea that it is the work of her partner to “give” you anything. In fact, when you let go of trying to “get” him or her, you will not only feel happier in your relationship, but your partner will feel more inspired to give it to you naturally.
Why is this true? Well, trying to “get” anything else is just bad news. Let’s start by talking about why this is …
Always waiting for someone to “give” something (especially a state of feeling) leads to dependency relationships. When you feel like your work else to fill you up, it means you are not filling enough on its own. While it is desirable to project our needs on other people and expect them to comply with them, this is not what relationships are for! If you are unsure, find what you can do to “make” yourself, to connect to a sense of security from within. Doing so will allow you to loosen the grip of trying to “get” someone else.
Second, it is a futile experience. Again, no one can give you a feeling or state of being that you are not able to access on their own. You will be disappointed again and again if you are trying to use someone else to fill your cup.
Finally, try to “get” people makes them aside. Maybe you know the feeling that someone is bothering you for something? And you feel there is a bottomless pit behind his persistent? This does not create the space for intimacy to flourish on its own. Tension in relationships is automatically set and pushes people.
So if you are familiar with this pattern of trying to “get” how do you change it?
You can create a spiritual practice that connects you with a sense of fulfillment from within.
Spiritually speaking, we are all around. However, most of us do not concern ourselves in this way. We believe we are incomplete, causing the need to “reach out” to others. We make the mistake of assuming we complete our relationships. This way of thinking is called your ego.
Creating a spiritual practice that falls below his ego in a different place, one that is no longer necessary to “get”. It is a place of stillness, silence, and here and now. It is this internal space to fill up. When you practice this consistently, your partner and everyone else will probably start to feel inspired to give you on your own.
Spiritual practices such as meditation, yoga, or simple internal reflection, everyday can reactivate the process of changing the way you relate to others. How? At first change the way you relate to yourself. Cultivating a spiritual practice that teaches that, despite what your ego tells you, you do not have to “get” anything from anyone. All you really need is found within (radical, I know, but true). As you practice more and more, that will automatically bring this full in other areas of your life.
And this is what will happen in their relationships as a result:
You will feel independent. Not in a dysfunctional way that pushes people away, but one way to stop clinging to others. This results in an ultimate sense of freedom in relationships; is the experience of acceptance and detachment.
You will realize that happiness is truly infinite, because it begins within you. Do not expect other people to feel good; You trust yourself to connect. Love, happiness and fulfillment are within you, and you have to experience as much as you want.
And finally, people will be attracted to you.
When connected from the inside out, you beam. You have a funny trust that is impossible to miss. Suddenly, everyone wants to be around you. You really start effortlessly “get” from others in a way that you always wanted, because you stopped trying so hard to make it happen by force.
Practice finding happiness and connection within yourself first, and your relationships will become the best I have experienced. You’ll leave aside the attachment and clinging accompanying depend on something outside yourself; you let your partner whether he or she is, and you can be you, too. This is what may seem to experience true happiness in love.
Please leave a comment below sharing how you will practice connecting to wholeness within yourself, so you can create the relationship you’ve always wanted.