You’re about to meet your new super-confident alter ego.
We’re guessing the idea of putting in a sensual dance back to Nicki Minaj in the video “Anaconda” (seriously, the show Drake took his life), either makes you cringe or totally piques your interest. But even if it looks like something that only exotic dancers-o-Nicki could possibly come out, that just is not true. Sure, she knows a thing or two about making the dance chair seems out-of-this-world sexy, but that does not mean you can not learn, too!
We talked to ilov Grate a pole dancing instructor at S Factor New York (who also happens to teach your class erotic dance!), And Kimberly Smith, instructor and owner of StripXpertease, for some helpful tips on how to in a performance for family-without feeling like a fool.
Take the Pressure Off
Grate says lap dance is not what you do; but how you do it. She suggests not overthink things and go with what feels right to you. “If you are allowing yourself to feel good, then your dance will look good,” she says. It is totally normal to feel a little nervous, so try to boost your confidence by dressing room and pipe a sensual character (if your sexual animal spirit is Nicki, Beyonce or Katy Perry). Smith also says he has a glass of wine is a good way to ease your nerves but keep a half a glass (a drunk dancing is not pretty). If you are super nervous type, Smith recommends practicing your routine solo first so you will have a better idea of what works and what feels totally unnatural.
Breathe, breathe, breathe
Breathing is the key to not only calm your nerves, but also to keep your body moving smoothly. “The minute you start holding your breath, your body will start to block,” said Grate. “Staying connected to the breath allows you to move more fluidly.” She recommends starting with a simple breathing exercise where she closes her eyes and take three slow breaths and exhale three before the dance. to calm her nerves, she rests her hand on her belly to feel the rise and fall of your breath and stay connected with your body. So she is ready to go.
Choose the Right Setting
Light up your bedroom with candles or red light bulbs. A 2008 study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that the color red enhances sexual attraction, and the knowledge that has this effect on your partner can make you feel even hotter. And do not forget, dancing to the song should be one that excites you and makes you feel sexy. Grate recommends music she calls “slow, sick and sexy” as in the type that has a slow tempo, sensual atmosphere and excite you-not what is normally danced at the club. If you do not know where to start, Grate says he has not met a woman who does not feel connected to Janet Jackson “Would You Mind,” although we believe that “partition” Beyoncé would work pretty well, too.
Wear the right clothes
“The last thing you want to do is be in clothes that restrict their movement,” Grate says. So stick with something sexy but fluent. And if this is going to turn into a striptease (hey, why not?), Grate says choose something that will be easy (and sexy) to take slowly, like a shirt button or an elastic, V-neck adds that Smith should avoid wearing clothing that can get caught in your shirt (as long earrings) or dangly necklaces-you can get hit in the face. An accessory that is definitely allowed: heels. While you can walk comfortably in them, they will encourage your back and make you feel even more secure.
Master the Basics
For starters, Grate suggests this simple, you move: Have your guy sit in an armed chair, and approach the chair, whether walking or crawling it. Spread your legs and place your hands on your thighs. Then mount the chair by placing one knee between her legs and the other knee on the arm of the chair, grabbing the back of the chair or his shoulders for support. After starting with the back, go back, again and moving your torso to the side of him, and then the other side, repeating as often as you circulate this movement. If you want to make things even hotter, loosely tie your hands to the arms of the chair. You want him to be free enough to be tempted to touch you.
Try something more advanced
If you have done this before or feel super confident their movements, then take a step further. Smith suggests spicing up by kissing her earlobe, grabbing her tits, or take an ice cube and melting under his chest. Another move you can try is leading with the back (seriously). To stay sitting on the couch with your knees out in a V shape while you slowly turn around and back to him. Once you’ve achieved and the backs of the calves are touching the front of her, swinging down while leaning on his knees or arms of the chair until you land on your lap. From that point, just be creative. Imagine you are drawing circles around his chest to his crotch … with back, says Smith.
Drawing out the movements is also key, so focus on slowing everything. “When you take your time, let you feel the movement, even before you start making them,” he says. “And there is less opportunity for mistakes and blunders!” She recommends using the breath as an indicator. . “If you’re moving your hips from side to side, use a slow and deep breath to push to one side and then a slow, steady breath to push the other side” Smith agrees and says: “When you think you go slow, go slower because when you have nerves, which adds to the speed of the dance. ”
A lap dance not only shows that you are brave enough to do this, but creates more intimacy between you and your partner, said Grate. In addition, he is bound to add some fire to your typical sex life-after all, you just see?! After his performance has wrapped, do not be afraid to ask your partner to return the favor. Hey, we never said this was a solo show!