Don’t worry, he’s not blaming it on you.
Here’s a sad but true fact: About 30 percent of men are dissatisfied with how long they last in bed, according to a new study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
In the study of more than 1,200 men, 376 of them reported that ejaculates earlier than they wanted during sex. Then, the researchers divided the men into two groups, men who met the criteria for premature ejaculation (Listed ejaculate within two minutes) and men who lasted longer, but still were finishing sooner than desired.
Interestingly, most of the men in this study actually do not meet the diagnostic criteria for premature ejaculation. This could point to the fact that even healthy people may wish it lasted longer in bed (something we’re sure most women do not discuss). Furthermore, this finding may point to the need for a broader definition of premature ejaculation, note the researchers.
So what did men blame for their quick release? When the researchers asked guys why they thought this happened, most men from both groups chalked it up to either a lack of control or hypersensitivity, a.k.a. being too aroused. Fewer men cited problems with their partner, anxiety, or health issues.
With most guys attributing this issue to a lack of control, it can be helpful to let your partner know that there are things you both can do to remedy the situation. For starters, check out these five ways to help him last longer in bed. Plus, you can always assure him that are other ways he can please you if he finishes well before you do. He’s still got perfectly functioning fingers and a tongue, doesn’t he?